Confessions of a Laid-off Lawyer

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Get A Move On

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Total Black: $173.20
Total Red: $234,846.52

My sister telephoned on Thursday evening just as I was leaving the building of the contract attorney job.  In most instances, I never answer my telephone.  Typically I’m working and therefore never take calls unless it’s urgent.  Frankly I find it unprofessional the way contract attorneys—or anyone for that matter—answers their cellphones in public, quite often wherever they themselves, and just start up a conversation.  Nearly always it’s not that important.  But in the Era of On-Demand, people expect to be able to access you always and instantly.  With my work schedule, however, and personal cell phone policy—that rarely happens—to the chagrin of my family and friends.  But tonight I answered because I was leaving work. 

My sister, as always, had twenty questions and wanted to know the status of my preparations and plans to move at the end of May.  Generally, though, she doesn’t ask because she’s curious.  Rather her tone is more in the have-you-done-this or have-you-taken-care-of-that style.  It’s slightly comical but we seem to rarely be able to shake the familial roles we’ve played since childhood.  Perhaps because they’ve become rote by now.  If I’m the spender, my sister is the saver.  If I took after my father, with his more casual, live-each-day approach to life . . . and finances, then my sister took after my mother, the one who balanced the checkbook and paid the family bills.  I wonder, though, if that’s how it works in most households.  If money is the modern-day equivalent of the “kill” brought home by the man for the woman to prepare for the family, then perhaps many moms out there manage their family’s financial “kills,” so to speak.  Or maybe it’s just strong-willed Slavic mothers who do that.  For the most part, I think all of the women in my family manage their family’s finances.

At any rate, my sister peppered me with her many questions: “when are you moving?”, “will you be storing anything at mommy’s house?”, “have you gotten out of your lease yet?”, “are you renting a truck?,” “have you found an apartment?”, “will you be buying a car?”  All good questions, just questions I don’t have answers to yet.  Generally when she gets like the Grand Inquisitor, I just clam up and shut down because at some point the answer I provide will be cross-referenced with prior answers given at some other point, and I’ll be impeached  (legal term of art meaning caught in a direct contradiction between one’s current statement and some prior statement).  Not fun.  But tonight her questions jump-started my thinking.  It’s already mid-April!  Time to get a move on with moving on.

Still no letters—from either court.  I figure I’ll wait until Saturday’s mail arrives.  If not formal letter by then, then I’ll mention it to the judge’s clerk.  I’ve already thought it out: I’d like to show the letter to the landlord in support of my request to terminate my lease early.  The truth, but also a convenient angle for asking about the letter.  As I noted in Now What?, I’m a bit apprehensive to make this move without having a written contract to rely on.  But talking with my sister made me realize that I’ve already accepted that it’s time to get a move on.  So, even if, for some unforeseen reason, the clerkship fell through and I had to stay in New York, I’d still move just into a cheaper apartment.

Commence packing.

Total black is down because pay came through and has already been withdrawn for April’s rent.  I walked a cashier’s check over to the management company earlier today.  And, of course, we all know why total red is up.  That’s ok though.  It too needs to get a move on.  Back down to where it was before Tax Day.

Written by Laid-off Lawyer

April 16, 2010 at 23:58

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  1. Why do you need a formal letter stating you have the job? Maybe the judges consider the emails between you two to be formal enough. You even got them to give you a start date!

    Louisiana Solo

    April 18, 2010 at 01:28

  2. No, not really a matter of need—in the abstract. But the judge’s clerk is the person who “offered” me the position and she said I should expect the formal offer to arrive in the mail from the judge. So, since she “conditioned” the offer on the judge, I’m still slightly cautious.

    Laid-off Lawyer

    April 18, 2010 at 08:36

  3. ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS get a formal letter. Yes, tell these morons you need it for the landlord or whatever. Say you need to get the move started but the landlord is being an asshole and you need to show him something concrete. Don’t make any drastic changes until you get the letter – and let them know you won’t. Nicely.


    April 18, 2010 at 16:59

  4. Agreed.



    April 19, 2010 at 06:55

  5. Oh…guess I could have just clicked on the “thumb’s up” for that one.



    April 19, 2010 at 06:56

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