Confessions of a Laid-off Lawyer

Just Your Average Joe Blogging Away His Debt—In One Year or Less

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From Times Square to Time Square

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So, it’s starting to settle in that I’ve gone from this.  Keep reading . . .

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June 2, 2010 at 22:31

Liming Around Town

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Long but interesting day.  Met with two realtors.  Both of whom took me to see very different apartments.  I viewed seven different spaces today and, by the end of the day, settled on the one I want.  Keep reading . . .

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May 11, 2010 at 20:07

A Nice Gesture

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I’ve become a bit jaded with lawyers these past few years.  My troubles with the Colleague and his refusal to pay me.  Then there’s the landlord’s lawyers and all of their shenanigans involving my apartment and the numerous rent demands and then proceeding initiated back in October or November; although I may have been late, I always paid.  No matter to them though.  And we can’t forget the ol’ pals at my former law firm and how they kicked twenty of us (and many more since) to the curb because of the Great Recession.  And last and least are many of the contract attorneys I’ve had to work around or even with in some cases.  Not many bright and shining stars of the profession there.  So today when I met with my future co-clerk here in Manhattan I was touchingly surprised. Keep reading . . .

Meerkat Manor

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I had an interview this morning with a freelance reporter.  It’s the third request from a journalist via the blog and the second interview I’ve given.  The first journalist balked at my request for anonymity and we never reached to interview stage.  The second was willing to work with me on anonymity, but he didn’t get approval for the article and so the interview was for naught.  The third didn’t even ask my name.  We talked for just over a half-hour this morning.  All three wanted to talk about lawyers struggling with student loans.  Except the journalist today.  He wanted to talk about contract attorneys as well.  I figured I can’t leave the land of temp lawyers without a few more posts dedicated to the quirks, oddities, and irregularities of contract attorney work. Keep reading . . .

Talk Amongst Yourselves

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Walking to work this morning, I received an email from the other remaining contract attorney asking that I and one of the law firm’s paralegals stop by her office for a meeting.  Day-to-day now we’re on our own because all of the attorneys and one of the paralegals we work with are in federal court for the trial.  We’re left to talk amongst ourselves.  Keep reading . . .

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April 8, 2010 at 23:11

Hoarding and Spending

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Another night with bubbles and boys.  I worked two shifts at the theatre tonight.  And between shifts, while I ate, I relaxed a bit and read more of Mind Over Money by Brad and Ted Klontz.  In Chapter 7 they discuss what they refer to as money-worshiping disorders, “disorders that place  disproportionate amount of importance on money: earning it, saving it, spending it.”  They go to note that all three disorders  “share a common thread in that they all arise from scripts that equate money with safety, self-worth, and/or happiness.”  The section on hoarding really struck a cord. Keep reading . . .

Bubbles Galore

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This afternoon had to be the oddest and yet most interesting event that I’ve worked with New World Stages.  For anyone who’s read the chapter “SantaLand Diaries” in David Sedaris’s Holidays on Ice, my day brought a true-life glimpse into his chronicle of life as a Macy’s Elf.  No, I did not play an elf.  It is March after all; the elves are all hibernating.  (Or recovering.)  Instead, I spent the day helping The Gazillion Bubble Show.  The show participated in the Macy’s Flower Show kick-off.  And what a day it was. Keep reading . . .

Debt Vultures

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Ah blogdom.  Truly a brave new world where nearly anyone can swoop in start plucking apart your innards.  At least in the days of print media commenters had to take time to put their thoughts in a letter to the editor.  And invariably the mad rantings of strangers got filtered out.  But now you open yourself up to anyone out there, including any vultures swarming, looking for a kill.  A few comments received earlier today on Cold Feet prompted me to write a reply.  After three paragraphs, I opted to turn it into today’s post. Keep reading . . .

On the Seventh Day . . .

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I did not work today.  Not at the theatre, nor at the contract attorney position.  A few emails came through this morning from the associate at the law firm I’m working for, but I wasn’t needed after all.  Earlier in the week I had gotten my shifts at the theatre covered.  So I had the entire day to myself.  Not that I intended it that way, at first. Keep reading . . .

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March 21, 2010 at 23:50

Nerves a Jumble

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Today I am scheduled to interview for the opportunity mentioned back in Decisions, Decisions.  And I’m nearly nauseous thinking about it.  The complications associated with relocating for a year-long position—or the anxiety if it were for two years—it’s gnawing at me.  Plus distance is a factor.  Unfamiliarity with the locale.  And, frankly, the reality that I could end up in a worse financial position.  I’m left wondering when, if ever, is it appropriate to make a move that could improve your career standing but leave your finances in even worse shape. Keep reading . . .

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March 18, 2010 at 16:01

Puppy Love

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I’m still spending too much time thinking about this guy at the theatre, the same I dubbed Drunk Texter in prior posts like Later Night / Early Morning or Hot Toxic Love.  And as I noted in Hot Toxic Love, my feelings for him are truly toxic.  I wish I knew what his hold over me was. Keep reading . . .

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March 6, 2010 at 23:01

Fight, Flight, or Freeze

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In Financial Neighborhoods, I mentioned how the authors of Mind Over Money referenced the instinctual responses to perilous situations as fight, flight, or freeze.  I had never heard “freeze” included when referencing the fight-or-flight response.  It’s absence, now that I’ve noticed it, is a clear oversight on the part of psychologists.  The authors of Mind Over Money cite the triple-F response mechanism because that response is often triggered in times of financial difficulties or when we face financial struggles.  It seems asinine to imagine a primal response to something so contemporary as managing finances, but it happens.  Quite often.  To me as well. Keep reading . . .

Bark Bigger Than Bite

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Well.  I finally did it.  I answered the call.  Picked up the telephone.  Twice actually. Keep reading . . .

Stupid Cupid

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Happy Valentine’s Day!  Not much of one here.  I worked two shifts at the theatre and had to smile and beam at all the happy couples (both straight and gay) and giddy families coming to see the shows.  And both shows were sold out too so that meant a lot of patrons. Keep reading . . .

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February 14, 2010 at 23:02

Constant Craving

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Nope.  Not a post about k.d.  Although I did think about uploading that song—that is, until I googled the lyrics.   Odd.  At any rate, all day today I had these crazy bouts of spending urges. Keep reading . . .

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February 12, 2010 at 23:23

Business Travel

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I didn’t sleep last night.  I was up late posting yesterday’s entry as well as packing and getting the apartment ready for this short trip away.  And I was excited about coming to Orlando.  I sprang for a taxi to the airport this morning at 4am because I didn’t want to risk missing my flight if I did take the subway at that late hour.  I ended up missing it anyway because of JetBlue’s current reservations fiasco.  I stood in line for over ninety minutes.  That was my first and last time using JetBlue.  But once I made it past security and to the ticked area, I had an odd flashback to a few years ago when I traveled fairly frequently for business.  I miss it. Keep reading . . .

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February 5, 2010 at 23:19

Unclogging My Cash Flow

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I mentioned in plenty of prior posts like Feelings and Finances or Debtor’s Revolt that managing cash flow is really my main problem.  It was never paying my bills.  It certainly wasn’t my earnings; I made enough there, at least a few years back.  But even back when I had a six-figure job, I often went from paycheck to paycheck each week without much in cash.  Thanks to a lesson learned in Waiting For the Guilt To Subside, I avoid doing that any longer.  This week, however, I fell off the wagon a bit.  I admit it.

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January 19, 2010 at 08:05

Back to Basics

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The focus of this blog has strayed a bit afield of late.  I started on this path with two goals: to eliminate my debt in a year and to blog about debt, my efforts to get out of debt, and all things debt-related in general.  Perhaps I’ve let the blog devolve into a bit of an online journal.  That isn’t the focus.  While chronicling my efforts to get out of of debt are a component, I started the blog as a means to an end, not as an end in itself.  I need to keep that at the forefront because I think I’ve found myself slipping into the blogdom a bit too much lately. Keep reading . . .

The Rat Race

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Something hit me tonight.  I woke late this afternoon.  I went out last night for a few drinks.  I stayed in my neighborhood though and hit up a few neighborhood bars.  I had maybe three beers and two rum & cokes.  Nothing excessive for a Friday night out, but with the drugs from the medical experiment in my system, I think the drinks have a harder impact, especially the next day.  Or perhaps I’m just getting older, eh?  At any rate, I spent much of the day in bed, just being lazy.  The cable guy was supposed to stop by to pick up the box and remote control today.  He never showed.  So by around 5pm I decided I’d get up, head to the gym, and take care of some grooming matters.  It’s been awhile since I got my hair cut. Keep reading . . .

Financial Loneliness

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One common response from a number of commenters, readers, and other regular viewers—more so of late than previously—has been to formulate a budget or a come up with a plan of spending.  I’m not, on principle, adverse to the advice.  I understand the need to plan and budget accordingly.  And I can own that I have let myself go a bit these past two weeks, especially as opportunities to socialize surfaced through the theatre gig.  But there’s always a way to tighten our financial belts.  But as I got to thinking about planning and budgets, and started writing this post, something entirely different surfaced.  Something unexpected but vital to getting my spending under control. Keep reading . . .

Resolutions For the New Year

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It’s a new year.  I’m about to head to the gym, but I decided to post my blog entry for today first.  Got me thinking about resolutions, about the promises the new year brings, and the hope that we’ll fulfill them coupled with the fear that we won’t.  Very few people actually analyze the resolutions they make or examine how they phrase them.  The author of InSide Effects, David Ezell, helped me understand much about our behavior, and his prescient guidance is shining through now as I analyze my goals generally and think about how we achieve them and which are doomed to failure.  His post from last year, Resolve to Make Resolutions Work, still rings true and sums up what I’d say here.  Rather than attempt to rewrite it, I thought I’d just talk a bit about my resolutions and how I’d use his strategy to achieve my own. Keep reading . . .

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January 2, 2010 at 14:01

And More Jollification

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Once again I went out last night with people from the theatre gig.  I jumped at the chance.  This time one of the four guys I spoke of in Jollification didn’t come out again last night.  That meant we were only four and without a wingwoman, if you will.  Only three of the guys were the same.   That slightly changed the vibe I suspect.  I went out hoping for a repeat of the time I spoke of in Jollification, but that didn’t really happen. Keep reading . . .

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December 27, 2009 at 23:20

Secret Santas

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It’s nearly Christmas.  The time when gift-giving abounds and generosity’s cup runneth over.  At the temp job yesterday, I bought twenty dollars worth of $2 scratch-off tickets, ten a piece, for my two fellow contract attorneys.  They were pleasantly surprised.  One had never bought or received an instant lottery ticket.  He won ten dollars.  The other won seven.  Nothing extravagant, but a nice gesture.  Of course one possible downside to such unexpected giving is that people may feel obligated to give something to you in turn.  Today one attorney bought me a coffee at Starbucks while the other bought Starbucks gift cards for me and the other attorney.  I was happy to receive their gifts, but I just they purchased them out of a desire to give and not a feeling of obligation.  That’s why I understand the urge to give quietly and anonymously. Keep reading . . .

Semicolon And

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I spent a few hours over the weekend helping my colleague again. Yes, the same colleague who has not yet paid me for work done in August and who seems to trigger multiple comments. I guess I’m a sucker for helping people in need. But in his defense, I don’t think he’s billed the company yet for our hours, so it’s not that he’s holding out on me. He’s received an offer from the government office we both worked pro bono at so he needs to finish up his consulting work as quickly as possible. You can’t work as a government attorney and have clients on the side. Keep reading . . .

A Cold Blustery Walk Home

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As I walked to the subway this morning, Dunkin’ Donuts coffee in hand, I remembered that my subway card was per use and not unlimited monthly.  Last week, when it ran out, I thought I’d save a bit and buy per ride instead of the monthly pass because of the days I’d lose this month over the holidays.  Not a smart idea as I forgot that I was running low on rides on the card and I spent the few remaining dollars I had on that damn cup of coffee.  I had enough to get me to work on time, but nothing to get me back home. Keep reading . . .

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December 21, 2009 at 23:04